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Sheila M Duane's avatar

I've been wrestling with shame a lot lately. Sometimes it's so heavy.

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Emma Goldman-Sherman's avatar

It is brave of you to say so. We can work on this! That's why I'm writing about it/talking about it. It is healable. <3

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Sheila M Duane's avatar

Thanks.

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Carol Campbell's avatar

"Shame tends to dissolve under sunlight". Wow, is that true. It is 3am when shame wants to party and it's easy to forget during the light of day that shame waits under the front porch.

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Emma Goldman-Sherman's avatar

It's so great to see you here! I've missed you! Yes, late at night, shame emerges unless we can untangle from it. I have found IFS work is able to dismantle it completely!

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Carol Campbell's avatar

I've missed you too. I'll send along a note via email.

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jordan's avatar

Emma, this is lovely and healing and helpful. Thank you for sharing. My Autistic IFS-loving self needed this message today.

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Emma Goldman-Sherman's avatar

Thanks so much, jordan! All my parts aim to please! And heal! And be helpful.

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Jupiter Leone's avatar

This: "Shame hates the light of day. Like the Wicked Witch and water, Shame tends to dissolve under sunlight and sharing. But dissolving Shame is different from healing Shame."

So so so so true. Reading this made me think that what dissolves will reform elsewhere.

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Emma Goldman-Sherman's avatar

Yes, that is why IFS has been so helpful for me and others. Because it's not merely witnessing but also healing, via un-blending, understanding, and unburdening.

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