I’m thrilled for the ease you’re finding, and am working towards allowing that, too.
What is IFS, Emma? I am an empath and that aspect of me, although helpful when directing, can become an obstacle to being truly effective in other walks of my life. I’d like to find my way to compassion first, as it is not as debilitating, not an obstacle to action that needs to be overcome.
Hi Karen, thanks for this! IFS is a healing modality that considers all of us to be multiple internally - not multiple personalities as a pathology, but multiple parts as how we manage our lives and put out our internal fires. To that end we have parts that want to explain and parts that want to show, parts that are cognitive and parts that are doers. Parts that want to binge netflix and parts that shame us for not going to the gym, etc. Many of us have Inner Critics and we also have wounded criticized children who agree with those critics. IFS stands for Internal Family Systems and was developed in the 1980s by Richard Schwartz. A lot has happened since then. When I wrote FUKT, people immediately recognized it as being about parts, and so I started to learn what IFS was and used it and still use it for my own internal healing. It is so powerful I became a practitioner. It has helped me regulate my nervous system, quiet my mind, heal my multiple traumas and move forward in my life. And it’s how I spend my time working full time as an IFS coach. There are lots of IFS practitioners you could work with - check the IFS Institute for a directory. https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners
Thanks, Diana! I hope so. It’s so important to notice this difference. We can be so much more effective if we don’t fall into the trap of empathetic response and instead offer compassion.
I’m thrilled for the ease you’re finding, and am working towards allowing that, too.
What is IFS, Emma? I am an empath and that aspect of me, although helpful when directing, can become an obstacle to being truly effective in other walks of my life. I’d like to find my way to compassion first, as it is not as debilitating, not an obstacle to action that needs to be overcome.
Hi Karen, thanks for this! IFS is a healing modality that considers all of us to be multiple internally - not multiple personalities as a pathology, but multiple parts as how we manage our lives and put out our internal fires. To that end we have parts that want to explain and parts that want to show, parts that are cognitive and parts that are doers. Parts that want to binge netflix and parts that shame us for not going to the gym, etc. Many of us have Inner Critics and we also have wounded criticized children who agree with those critics. IFS stands for Internal Family Systems and was developed in the 1980s by Richard Schwartz. A lot has happened since then. When I wrote FUKT, people immediately recognized it as being about parts, and so I started to learn what IFS was and used it and still use it for my own internal healing. It is so powerful I became a practitioner. It has helped me regulate my nervous system, quiet my mind, heal my multiple traumas and move forward in my life. And it’s how I spend my time working full time as an IFS coach. There are lots of IFS practitioners you could work with - check the IFS Institute for a directory. https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners
I appreciate the distinction you make between empathy and compassion, Emma. I'm sure it will prevent a lot of burnout for your readers, including me.
Thanks, Diana! I hope so. It’s so important to notice this difference. We can be so much more effective if we don’t fall into the trap of empathetic response and instead offer compassion.